Wednesday 4 January 2017

PROTECTIVE STYLING: THE WAY TO GO THIS HAMATTAN PERIOD

PROTECTIVE STYLING


Today, we would be talking about protective styling, the benefits, and pitfalls and the most effective ways to groom your natural hair while its in a protective style.

Please note whenever i say natural, i am referring to both virgin and chemically processed hair which is usually referred to as 'relaxed'  or 'texlaxed' hair.

Happy new year everyone, as we begin the new year its beneficial to protect your hair most especially  the ends from the drying effect of the hamattan season.

A protective style can be said to be any form of hair style that keeps your  hair  and ends tucked in a way that it reduces the time spent touching and toiling with the hair.
Examples of protective styles include but are not limited to :



    SINGLE BRAIDS
    SINGLE TWISTS
    CORNROW
    WIG
    WEAVE
    and NATURAL HAIR PROTECTIVE STYLING

 Below are the benefits and pitfalls of the aforementioned protective styles without compromising your healthy hair grooming



 BENEFITS


braids and twists with synthetic extensions can tolerate water hence it allows you keep them for a longer period of time as you can wash the braids/twists between intervals without having to worry about odour or dirt unlike weavons. For some, the hair cleansing habit could be an interval of three weeks, while for others it could be an interval of one month depending on what you are most comfortable in


 braids and twists allow you the opportunity to oil and moisturise your hair regularly without having to worry about buildup of dirt and itchy scalp unlike weavons.


braids and twists also allow you to switch up styles in which ever way you choose to repack/style it. thus giving you more styling options to choose from.


This form of protective style also helps combat hand in hair syndrome [braids helps to keep your hands away from your hair for those who always like to touch their hair every minute


POSSIBLE PITFALLS TO AVOID WHEN OPTING FOR A PROTECTIVE STYLE IN BRAIDS, TWISTS AND CORNROW


AVOID OVERLY TIGHT BRAIDS , twists and cornrows [if the hair is overly tight, it is rather damaging than protecting because tightly braided hair will only put too much tension on your hair follicles thus causing it to break off] so instead of retaining hair length your hair will be reducing in length as a result of having to deal with hair breakage.



 AVOID HEAVY BRAIDS AND TWISTS [if your single braids or twists are heavy on each section of braids it will weigh the hair down as a result the weight of the synthetic braids will pull your own hair down causing it to break] therefore its beneficial to braid the synthetic hair in the same proportion as your hair] for example if each of your sectioned hair  is as thick as your little finger then its just right to either use the same proportion for the extension or you can up the extension to not more than your index finger or a maximum of your thumb size.


 AVOID RUBBING THE BRAIDS/TWISTS when cleansing [in other not to roughen the braids to keep it neat] its beneficial to just dab the water through the braids by using your palm to slap the water through the braids as you rinse through. once done you towel dry or use a t-shirt to dry the excess water by using a touch and squeeze method DO NOT RUB, allow it to air dry after using the touch and squeeze method.


AVOID OVERLY RUBBING THE BRAIDS/TWISTS when moisturising or oiling [in other to keep it neat] it is best to avoid rubbing in the oil or cream back and forth this is because rubbing in back and forth motion will only end up causing a rough surface on the braids. rather just dab the oil or moisturiser into each braids by following the below steps.


  •      Apply by rubbing the oil or moisturiser in between your palm
  •      Scrunch  [take like 5 to 10 braids at a time] and scrunch with your palm as you scrunch from root to tip of your own hair and not minding the remaining part of the extension as you are majorly concerned with your hair and not the extension
  •     If your moisturiser is in a liquid or  spray-able form take 5 to 10 braids at a time and spray from root to tip of your own hair.


  Once you done moisturising the whole braids, then you can repack  it to what ever style you desire but make sure not to style it too tight that it puts tension on your edges.


 If protecting your hair in wigs and weaves below are the benefits you stand to gain



   Wigs and weaves protects the hair from the sun damage, hence it helps to keep your hair colour protected from fading. from personal experience and other peoples experiences  i observed that too much exposure of the hair to sunlight can cause some sort of discolouration as it messes with the hair colour causing it to fade and look dull. For this reason wigs and weaves are excellent for use as a shield to protect the hair from the sun damaging heat ray.


 Wigs in particular gives you the opportunity to alternate between different hair styles within a short period of time as you can switch up wigs from one day to the other and still have the opportunity to groom and rock your natural hair in between.




 
POSSIBLE PITFALLS TO AVOID WHEN OPTING FOR A PROTECTIVE STYLE WITH WEAVES


  •         Do not get carried away in weaves that you forget to care for your own hair
  •        When grooming your hair in weaves Do not spritz water rather its better to use oil instead.
  •      Massage your scalp and hair tracks with oil once in a while and NOT every day, this is because if your scalp becomes too oily from daily oiling it might cause you to have an itchy scalp. Nonetheless, if your scalp is too dry it can also cause an itchy scalp so its best to apply oil in moderation.
  •         Do not clog your scalp with creams, its better to oil the scalp and use your creamy leave-in products to moisturise your hair only. Hence, oiling is great for the hair and scalp but as for creamy products its best to apply it between your hair tracks and not on your scalp.



            How do you protect your hair during the hamattan period?

Do you have specific ways of protecting your hair differently during hamattan or do you change your hair regimen to accommodate the change in weather?








Monday 21 November 2016

AFRO BY NATURE PRODUCT RANGE















afrobynature 2in1 rinse out  Conditioning Cleansing Cream
 Detangler.
 Co-wash

an excellent cleansing conditioner with detangling properties, infused with Neem oil to combat any scalp related issues. Great for all hair types
FEATURES
great for gentle cleansing without stripping moisture from hair. It Improves hair surface, add slip, and helps to detangle each strand of hair. product use should last upto 5 application for short hair, and 3-4 applications for medium to long hair.

BENEFITS
Cleanses dirt and keep scalp in a healthy condition
eases detangling process
leaves hair clean and smooth





















afrobynature Hydrating leave-in conditioner
Composed of excellent moisturising and conditioning properties including  pro vitamin B5, Vit B6, amino acid, fruit extract and penetrating oils. Great for all hair types
FEATURES
works to strengthen and protect hair from harsh environmental conditions that can be detrimental to hair health, mechanical hair styling tools, and manipulative hair styles. Also keeps the hair soft and hydrated all day long. Product use should last upto 35 applications as less is more with this hydrating leave in conditioner and its great for all hair types
BENEFITS
daily use protects hair against damages caused by harsh weather conditions such as extreme heat and dry cold temperature from Air cooling unit [AC]
daily use strengthens hair, makes hair thicker, darker, sleek ,flexible and hydrated. As a result it makes the hair more manageable to handle.
DIRECTION
apply once daily or as needed, proceed to brushing or combing with a wide tooth comb and style as desired.






HYDRATING LEAVE-IN CONDITIONING SPRAY
Composed of excellent moisturising and conditioning properties including aloevera juice, DL panthenol, amino acid, fruit extract and penetrating oils. This spray-able version of afrobynature leave-in conditioner is great for use where hands on hair might roughen curly hair styles or when hair is in braids and protective styles.

FEATURES
works to hydrate curls, and to also strengthen and protect hair in braids.
BENEFITS
daily use while in braids help to strengthen, hydrate and protect hair from damages caused by neglecting braided hair.
DIRECTION
section braids into 4 parts and spritz conditioning spray from root to  tip of your own hair only and not the whole length of braids, do this 2-4 times per week.
To hydrate curly styles, spritz on hair  ones daily or as needed







100% pure Organic Coconut Oil
  can be used for hot oil treatment [which means to apply a generous amount of oil on dry damp or dry hair and cover with a plastic cap for 15mins before rinsing it off]
It can also be applied on hair while in braids. 
please note for those whose hair is protein sensitive [meaning those whose hair reacts negatively to coconut oil as a result it stiffens your hair] than you are better off with a soft oil such as the one below










HAIR REGROW SCALP OIL
composed of various blend of hair stimulating oils and multivitamin great for all hair types
FEATURES
aid in stimulating hair growth on scalp with the help of potent plant oils that penetrate scalp to deposit essential hair vitamins directly into the root to rebuild hair around edges and bald areas on scalp.
 BENEFITS
Keeps the scalp in healthy condition
stimulate hair growth
protects hair colour
great as a hot oil treatment for those with protein sensitive hair










HI DEFINITION CURL MAKER
made from  purely plant gels with excellent moisturising properties. great for defining curls. Great for defining natural hair only 
FEATURES
afrobynature curl enhancing styling gel works to give natural hair immediate springy bouncy coils that is almost unbelievable.
achievable hair styles include; single coils, bantu knotout, twistout, braidout, straw curls and other form of curly and coily related hair styles.
BENEFITS
define coils and curls
gives a well defined wash and go
leave hair well moisturised all day long
DIRECTION
apply on dry or damp hair BUT NOT SOAKING WET hair.


Friday 5 June 2015

THE IMPORTANCE AND BENEFITS OF USING FOOD ITEMS TO REMEDY NATURAL HAIR PROBLEMS

The most important vitamin for hair health is VITAMIN B, Regular intake of foods high in vitamin be  do not only help to increase hair growth rate but also help to boost overall health.
Food sources of vitamin B can be found naturally in animal products such as [ fish, poultry, diary, eggs and meat]. Also 100% original and undiluted Honey is a good source of vitamin B6 and certain amino acid


The B vitamins include thiamin, riboflavin, niacin, folate (also called folic acid), vitamin B6, vitamin B12, biotin and pantothenic acid. The B vitamins work collectively and individually in every cell to perform many different jobs, including helping the body release the energy it gets from carbohydrates, proteins and fats.


Some foods are especially good sources of just one B vitamin, while other foods contain several B vitamins. Luckily, B vitamins are widely distributed throughout the food supply, so if you're eating a varied, balanced diet that includes foods from all food groups, you’re most likely getting as many vitamins as you need.

However, topical application of B vitamins are great for healthy hair grooming  and Afrobynature Deep penetrating Conditioning Hair Treatment is packed with essential B vitamins which includes Bee product, diary product, Bananna fruit extract, coconut milk and plant protein with 100% pure natural organic oils to revitalize, strengthen and moisturize the hair. This miracle in a jar works to strengthen hair,make the hair more manageable to handle and less susceptible to breakage with a lot of shine and bounce. Its truly a wonder in a jar EXCELLENT VALUE FOR MONEY YET HIGHLY AFFORDABLE.



Its also good to alternate between store bought deep conditioner and home made deep conditioners. All you need are
  • 2-3 over ripe avocados equally known as pear in Nigeria
  • apply a few drops of pure unrefined honey [hint] unrefined honey has a very thick gluee consistency just like caramel [note too much of honey would lighten up your hair]
  • apply a cup of unsweetened yogurt or pure freshly made cow milk
  • apply 1-2 over ripe bananas [be careful with this because it can leave  white particles all over the hair if not well blended]



  • Blend it up.
  • make sure you blend it until it forms a soft creamy consistency like the image belowImage result for blended avocado imageImage result for blended avocado image
  • after blending pour in a bowl 
  • then section your hair in to four and apply it on your hair
  • after applying the mask your hair should look like this with the curls popping
  • then cover up the hair for 30 minutes for the treatment to penetrate the whole hair
  • after 30 minutes rinse off thoroughly make sure there are no residue left behind 
  • after washing off the treatment your hair curls or coils should pop like this 
  • Then apply your favorite leave in conditioner.
     A leave in conditioner works to keep the hair in a good condition by leaving it hydrated all day long and that is what 
    Afrobynature Hydrating leaving conditioner does, it leaves the hair hydrated all day long. No drying or stiffness in hair, suppleness all the way plus an added advantage of darkening the hair,  with a lot of shine and bounce, trust me when i say you will  totally fall in-love with it. 


    NOTE; if you want to retain coils and curl make sure you do not rub the hair while washing off the home made mask, just flush the hair with water and do not rub. but if coils is not your priority then you can go ahead and wash off thoroughly while running your fingers through your hair.
  • after completing the steps aforementioned you can now style your hair to what ever form you wish, below are a few pictures of the usual styles i do make immediately after a deep conditioning treatment
  • half twist

    complete single strand twists with the use of Afrobynature Curl Enhancing cream the one in a jar





    wash and go

    bantu knot

    dready twist

    afro 



    high puff





  • THERE ARE NUMEROUS BENEFITS OF DEEP CONDITIONING  THE HAIR

Good Conditioner:

This Butter fruit Conditioner works effective on  dry brittle hair. It is creamy and yummy. Massaging your hair with the butter fruit cream, results in soft and healthy looking hair. It effectively conditions damaged and dry hair. It also controls frizz hair  to a good extent
Protects Hair:A good fruit based deep conditioner such as the one above protects the hair from heat and other chemicals.

 Rescue For Split Ends:

The fruit and natural oil blend in the conditioner works well on dry and brittle hair, which in turn helps in controling split ends.

Shiny Hair:

This conditioner contains fats, amino acids,  plant protein, vitamins and omega 3 fatty acids, which are essential for beautiful and shiny hair. The inclusion of bananna fruit extract does give the hair a very glossy look, not greasy but glossy

 Moisturizer For Scalp:

 The vitamins in the conditioning pack helps to stimulate the hair follicles, thereby improves blood circulation in the scalp. The natural oils detangle the hair without leaving it greasy.

Softening Mask:

Works to make the hair soft and nourished naturally. I can not emphasis this well enough as this blend makes my hair extremely soft and shiny.

Vitamin B and E:

Deficiency of vitamins might result in hair loss and other hair-related problems. The Vitamin B and E in this conditioning pack helps in strengthening and protecting the hair strands. It also repairs scalp damage, which is the major cause of hair loss.

 Rejuvenates Scalp:

If we speak particularly of the avocado benefits for hair, avocado oil helps in rejuvenating and moisturizing the scalp. One can use avocado oil for hair in more than one ways as it’s an exceptional treatment for revitalizing dry, damaged, lifeless hair. It deep conditions your locks and scalp and hence leave them looking lustrous and full of life. Moreover, being a rich source of proteins, amino acids and vitamins, avocado oil also helps to promote the growth of healthier tresses. Which are contained in the deep conditioning mask.

Wednesday 8 April 2015

30 Practical Ways to Improve Yourself

SO AS I WAS DOING MY READING I SAW THESE AND I THOUGHT I SHOULD ALSO SHARE WITH YOU ALL. [30 PRACTICAL WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF]

Maintain a positive attitude. – Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  The mind must believe it can do something before it is capable of actually doing it.  So be aware of your mental self-talk.  We all talk silently to ourselves in our heads, but we aren’t always conscious of what we’re saying or how it’s affecting us.  Start listening to your thoughts.  If you hear negative thoughts, stop for a second and replace them with positive thoughts.  As the Dalai Lama once said, “The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.”  For some practical positive thinking guidance, I recommend reading The Power of Positive Thinking.

Be kind to yourself. – If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?  The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.  You must love who you are or no one else will.

Embrace problems as a natural part of growing. – Part of living and growing up is experiencing unexpected troubles in life.  People lose jobs, get sick, and sometimes die in car accidents.  When you are younger, and things are going pretty well, this harsh reality can be hard to visualize.  The smartest, and oftentimes hardest, thing we can do in these kinds of situations is to be tempered in our reactions.  To want to scream obscenities, but to be wiser and more disciplined than that.  To remember that emotional rage only makes matters worse.  And to remember that tragedies are rarely as bad as they seem, and even when they are, they give us an opportunity to grow stronger.

Create your mission statement. – Mine was simply “To translate what gives me joy, fulfillment and makes me genuinely happy into a career that will allow me to work for myself and spend more time with my family.”  This meant starting my own business as a coach to help individuals and small business owners get what they want out of their life and business.  Formulating this sentence allows us to create a short mission statement that summarizes exactly what we want from life, which will help to keep it in the forefront of our minds when we’re making important decisions.
Exploit the resources you do have access to. – It’s not about having access to countless resources; it’s about exploiting the resources you do have access to.  Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it.  What resources do you have access to that you are not using?
Help others when you are able. – In life, you get what you put in.  When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life.  The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.  Love and kindness begets love and kindness.

Narrow your focus. – Concentrate your efforts on smaller and smaller areas.  When your efforts are diffused over a wide area they won’t have much of an impact.  So focus on smaller areas and your efforts will be felt more fully.  It could take time for change to happen, but keep that focus narrow.
Stretch your comfort zone by trying new things. – Doing the same exact thing every day hinders self growth.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Growth happens when you change things – when you try new things – when you stretch beyond your comfort zone.
Create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals. – Successful people are objective.  They have realistic targets in mind.  They know what they are looking for and why they are fighting for it.  Successful people create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.  S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely.  When you identify S.M.A.R.T. goals that are truly important to you, you become motivated to figure out ways to attain them.  You develop the necessary attitude, abilities, and skills.  You can achieve almost any goal you set if you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps.  Goals that once seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them.  


Make your own needs a priority. – Stop putting your needs on the back burner.  The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
Learn and practice one new skill every week. – Self-reliance is a vital key to living a healthy, productive life.  To be self-reliant one must master a basic set of skills, more or less making them a jack of all trades.  Contrary to what you may have learned in school, a jack of all trades is far more equipped to deal with life than a specialized master of only one.  And besides, learning new skills is fun.  Check out this article, this article, and this book.

Stop procrastinating. – Start taking action and making changes.  Action and change are often resisted when they’re needed most.  Get a hold of yourself and have discipline.  Discipline is choosing what you really want over what you want right now.  Putting something off makes it instantly harder and scarier.  What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow.  And there’s nothing more stressful than the perpetual lingering of an unfinished task.
Forgive people and move forward. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the remedy.  It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened.  It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.  Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.


Excel at what you do. – People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say.  Be someone worth emulating.  Most people are inspired by GREAT musicians, writers, painters, speakers, entrepreneurs, engineers, mothers, fathers, athletes, etc.  There’s only one thing they all have in common: They excel at what they do.  There’s no point in doing something if you aren’t going to do it right.  Excel at your work and excel at your hobbies.  Develop a reputation for yourself, a reputation for consistent excellence.


Identify the lesson in every situation. – Everything is a life lesson.  Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc.  They’re all part of the learning experience we call ‘life.’  Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way.  If you don’t get a job you wanted or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting.  And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.
Express gratitude. – When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value.  Kinda cool right?  So basically, being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in your life will bring you a deeper sense of happiness.  And that’s without having to go out and buy anything.  It makes sense.  We’re going to have a hard time ever being happy if we aren’t thankful for what we already have.
Savor the joy of simple pleasures. – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free.  They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times.  They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness.  It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love.  Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life.  Read The Happiness Project.
Stop caring about what everyone else wants for you. – Unfortunately, just before you take your first step on the righteous journey to pursue your dreams, people around you, even the ones who deeply care for you, will usually give you awful advice.  It’s not because they have evil intentions.  It’s because they don’t understand the big picture – what your dreams, passions and life goals mean to you.  They don’t understand that, to you, the reward is worth the risk.  So they try to protect you by shielding you from the possibility of failure, which, in effect, also shields you from the possibility of making your dreams a reality.
Make small, positive changes every day. – How do you eat an elephant?  One bite at a time.  The same philosophy holds true for making changes in your life.  Making small, positive changes – eating a little healthier, exercising a little, creating some small productive habits, for example – is an amazing way to get excited about life.

Read great books. – The Web is grand.  With its fame for hosting informative, easy-to-skim textual snippets and collaborative written works, people are spending more and more time reading online.  Nevertheless, the Web cannot replace the authoritative transmissions from certain classic books that have delivered (or will deliver) profound ideas around the globe for generations.  Read books that are packed with wisdom capable of igniting a new understanding of the world.


Keep an open mind. – Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.  The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know.  We all have our own unique path and feelings.  When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.  It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.
Don’t rush intimate relationships. – Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off.  It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.  You don’t need a perfect one, you just need someone who you can trust – who shows you that you’re the only one.  If you haven’t found true love yet, don’t settle.  There is someone out there who will love you unconditionally, even if it’s not the person you were initially hoping for.
Embrace change. – If nothing ever changed there would be no sunrise the next morning.  Most of us are comfortable where we are even though the whole universe is constantly changing around us.  Learning to accept this is vital to our happiness and general success.  Because only when we change, do we grow, and begin to see a world we never knew was possible.  And don’t forget, however good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So embrace it, and realize that change happens for a reason.  It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.

Choose to smile more often. – A smile is a choice, not a miracle.  Don’t wait for people to smile.  Show them how.  A genuine smile makes you and everyone around you feel better.  The simple act of smiling sends a message to your brain that you’re happy.  And when you’re happy, your body pumps out all kinds of feel-good endorphins.  This reaction has been studied since the 1980’s and has been proven a number of times.  Bottom line:  Smiling actually makes you happier.
Let go of the past. – Don’t let the past steal your present and future from you.  Accept the fact that the past in not today.  You might not be proud of all the things you’ve done in the past, but that’s okay.  The past is not today.  The past cannot be changed, forgotten, or erased.  It can only be accepted.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.
Face your fear of failure. – You might fail.  And that’s OK.  Failures are simply stepping stones to success.  No matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be.  Either you succeed or you learn something.  Win-Win.  The biggest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re too scared to make a mistake.  If you can’t handle failure, then you can’t handle success either.


Be proud of yourself. – Being proud isn’t bragging about how great you are.  It’s more like quietly knowing that you’re worth a lot.  It’s not about thinking you’re perfect – because nobody is – but knowing that you’re worthy of being loved and accepted.  Boost your self-esteem by recognizing your accomplishments and celebrating them.  Acknowledge your positive qualities, and when you come across a quality in yourself that you aren’t proud of, don’t sulk in your sorrows, proactively work on correcting it.  Read Today We Are Rich.


Be attentive to your stress level. – Slow down.  Breathe.  Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose.  When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity.  These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.


Let go of regrets. – Follow your heart.  Be true to yourself.  Do what makes you happy.  Be with who makes you smile.  Laugh as much as you breathe.  Love as long as you live.  Say what you need to say.  Offer a helping hand when you’re able.  Appreciate all the things you do have.  Smile.  Celebrate your small victories.  Learn from your mistakes.  Realize that everything is a lesson in disguise.  Forgive.  And let go of the things you can’t control.



Keep learning and nurturing your personal growth. – Achieving higher consciousness comes from your commitment to personal growth.  You’re a totally different person compared to who you were at this time last year; next year will be no different.  How much you grow and who you become is up to you.  But remember, the acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing; growing happens when what you know changes how you live

Thursday 2 April 2015

How To Obtain True SUCCESS


  1. First and foremost let me start by saying we all have a common desire which is to be successful in what ever we do in other to achieve great success in our various fields there are things we need to make do of and let go of.

  1.  First we need to BELIEVE in our selves [ in my opinion i think we should always stand up for whatever we believe in no matter how odd/abnormal it might seem] what ever thing you believe in will surely work for you.
  2. We need to VALUE everything and everyone that come our way. Let's appreciate what we have and give thanks. Remember that by focusing only on what we want and never valuing what we have we become unhappy. 
  3. let's try and SIMPLIFY things for our selves by focusing on the present NOT the future. I said this because NOW[PRESENT] is always a good starting point in simplifying / getting things done. Trust me procrastinating is a road to failure please do not embark on such road it is a no no.
  4. We must APPRECIATE our God given gifts/talents, recognize them and put them to good use for others and our self. Sometimes we underestimate those gifts or even take them for granted. I advise we try and listen to what others may be telling us about our own gifts because this could serve as a reminder to us of our special capabilities. [trust me i am talking from experience]
  5. Let's Inculcate the habit of SAVING time, money and our energy as all of these are in limited supply.
  6. Let's Inculcate the habit of GIVING. Give without expecting anything in return. This is a difficult concept for many people to accept and apply. Yet it is in GIVING that we receive. We may give to others our time, services or money. A typical example of giving time to others can be drawn from how i take my time to answer peoples hair related questions freely without expecting anything in return. In-fact what we ultimately receive by giving can be abundantly more than what we refused to give.
  7. WORRY LESS, leave your fears and anxieties behind because worrying on an issue would not resolve it rather it will only dis-stabilize you from focusing on how to resolve the issue.
  8. Take CONTROL of the future. If you do not take control of your future then someone else will take control of it for you. Be in control of your BELIEVES your VALUES and your DREAMS. We must always be able to visualize what we want from life. Unexpected event will inevitably occur and cause us to slow down or even pause for a while, that is ok. The Important point is to maintain a focus that is right for us not someone else.[I am talking from experience]
  9. We must INVEST in our selves and in others. We take what we have such as saved-time, money, services and invest these accordingly. To be honest when we invest we assume risk but have the faith to know there will be a return someday.
  10. Let us MAXIMIZE our efforts in all that we do, regardless of what it is let us do it as well as we are capable. Although sometimes i get discouraged when it seems as if i am not moving closer to my goals but that is mostly the time i feel i need to draw on my inner/spiritual strength to forge ahead because who never knows when the next blow may break the ice and help us succeed.
  11. Let us make whatever CHANGES necessary to create our own security. Let's not forget that change is the number one constant thing in Life. We would always need to accept and adapt to certain changes in our life's in other to move forward.
  12. Let's learn to PRIORITIZE important things [our VALUES, BELIEFS and SECURITY].
  13. Its highly important to PLAN where we want to be and how we would get there. One cant go anywhere if there are no directions.
  14. And Finally i will huge you to ACT fast and ACT now by doing this..... take your God given gifts and start scattering those seeds. with enough effort and the help of God you will be secure and obtain true wealth. Pray often, BELIEVE and stay true to your VALUES no matter your circumstances.